'My fiancée doesn't need my daughter in our marriage ceremony and now I'm torn'

A dad has taken to the web to ask for recommendation after his soon-to-be spouse determined to not embody his daughter of their large day.

He defined that he was married beforehand and had a toddler together with his now ex-wife and so they share 50/50 custody of the 11-year-old lady.

After his divorce, he met his present fiancée and he believed she and his daughter acquired alongside nice, having constructed a relationship over 5 years.

Nevertheless, after asking her to marry him, she jumped into planning the marriage and introduced that her niece would tackle the function of flower lady.

The dad-of-one stated he had no downside with this however that his daughter must be included as nicely – which his future spouse protested towards.

He defined: “I (45m) have a daughter (P) from a earlier relationship. I divorced my ex spouse on good phrases and we share 50/50 custody of P.

“She is now 11. After I divorced my ex spouse I met my now fiancé (S). S and my daughter acquired alongside very nicely . After 5 years in my relationship with S I proposed.

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“S was tremendous excited and needed to start out planning instantly. She checked out venues and began asking her mates to be her bridesmaids. She then instructed me she needed her niece to be a flower lady.

“Which I had no downside with, however I stated I additionally needed P to be a flower lady. S checked out my humorous after which stated that she didn’t assume that P would ‘match the half’.”

He went on to say issues acquired heated earlier than he determined to up and depart to “assume this over” and threatened that if his little lady wasn’t going to be concerned, there is probably not a marriage in any case.

“I acquired offended and instructed S that my daughter can be in our marriage ceremony,” he defined.

“S began to change into upset and stated that the women within the marriage ceremony had been as much as her and P wouldn’t be one in all them.

“I instructed S that if P wasn’t within the marriage ceremony then there may not be a marriage. I stormed out and took P to get ice cream.

“P is aware of we’re getting married and instructed me she thinks she is going to look fairly I no matter gown S decides she ought to put on this broke my coronary heart and I made a decision to textual content S.

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“I instructed her I might be staying at a mates to assume this over.”

Since then, he stated: “My MIL texted me saying I and over reacting and that my daughter doesn’t must be in my marriage ceremony and I used to be and ass for saying that I might cancel.”

The daddy then requested readers: “So did I take it to far saying I’ll cancel? Am I overreacting or simply being dad?”

Individuals jumped to his defence within the feedback on his Reddit publish, with one writing: “It is a large pink flag. If she does not wish to embody her step daughter in her marriage ceremony then do not count on she is going to embody your daughter in her life…”

One other stated: “Props to you for standing up on your daughter, that’s precisely what dad ought to do.

“Your fiancé is attempting to decrease your daughter’s function in your marriage ceremony. I’d be involved that’ll carry over to different components of your life too.

“No matter bullsh*t she means by her not “becoming the half,” sends up large pink flags to me too.”

A 3rd added: “Watch out, S simply confirmed you her true emotions for P. You need the individuals who imply probably the most in your marriage ceremony.

“The truth that your fiancée, who I’m guessing is youthful than you and this might be her first marriage, doesn’t assume your daughter matches that description is extraordinarily telling to me.”